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Lights, Camera… Anxiety? The Challenges of Promoting My Book as an Introvert

 When I first set out to write Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines , I knew that sharing my story would require a level of vulnerability. What I didn’t realize was how much more vulnerability it would take to promote the book once it was published. Writing is an introvert-friendly activity. It’s a solitary process, a place where I can express myself without the pressure of real-time feedback. But in today’s world, where social media plays a crucial role in book promotion, authors are expected to put themselves out there in a way that can feel daunting—especially through video content. The Pressure of Being On Camera Creating videos to promote my book sounds simple in theory. A short clip explaining the inspiration behind my story, a snippet of a reading, or a heartfelt thank-you to readers—these should be easy, right? But for someone who thrives in quiet reflection rather than the spotlight, hitting “record” often feels like stepping onto a stage without a script. ...

Coming Soon: Shades of Purple: Teaching Outside the Lines ๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿ“š

 The journey continues! After the overwhelming love and support for Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines , I am beyond excited to announce the upcoming release of my next book— Shades of Purple: Teaching Outside the Lines ! This book is for teachers, students, and anyone who has ever wondered what it truly means to make an impact in the classroom . It dives into my years as an educator, from the innovative teaching strategies I implemented to the unforgettable students who changed my life . You’ll read about the triumphs and struggles of being a young teacher, the weight of guiding the next generation, and how I redefined learning through gamification, technology, and student-centered experiences . ๐Ÿ’ก What to Expect in This Book: ✔️ The journey of a teacher trying to break the mold in education ✔️ How I created a gamified classroom that made learning fun ✔️ The students who shaped me as much as I shaped them ✔️ The highs and lows of teaching , from classroom vic...

Rising Above the Noise – Handling Negative Comments with Grace

  Putting  Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines  out into the world has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. It has connected me with incredible people, sparked meaningful conversations, and even helped others feel seen in ways they hadn’t before. But with every bright moment comes a shadow, and that shadow often takes the form of negativity. The internet is full of opinions—some supportive, some constructive, and others just… well, downright rude. “Who cares?” “Everyone has a story.” “This isn’t special.” I’ve seen comments like these, and while they don’t come close to outweighing the love and encouragement I’ve received, they do make me pause. I’m not one to stay silent, and I’ve never been someone to just let things slide without saying  something . But over time, I’ve learned that  how  I respond matters just as much as  if  I respond. There’s a fine line between standing up for yourself and engaging in an arg...

Coffee and Writing: How Shades of Purple Came to Life ☕๐Ÿ’œ

  I’ve always said that writing wasn’t my thing. It’s exhausting, it forces you to sit with emotions you’d rather ignore, and it takes  time —a lot of time. But when I started writing  Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines , something clicked. I knew I had to tell my story, and once I started, I couldn’t stop. Would you believe me if I said this book was written in  around 50 hours ? That’s right—just over two full days' worth of writing time, spread across a few weeks. Early mornings became my sacred time. I’d wake up around  5:30 AM , pour a hot cup of coffee, and let the words spill onto the page. There was something about that quiet, pre-dawn solitude that made writing easier. No distractions, no expectations—just me, my thoughts, and the hum of a fresh brew in my favorite mug. The caffeine-fueled writing sessions weren’t always easy. Some mornings, I stared at the screen for what felt like forever, dreading the next sentence. Other mornings, m...

Social Outings and Social Batteries

  Networking is a necessary part of being an author, especially when promoting a book like  Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines . But if you’re anything like me—someone who enjoys meeting new people but also finds socializing  exhausting —you understand the struggle of balancing these events with your own energy levels. Recently, I attended an LGBTQ+ networking event by  Plexus  to promote  Shades of Purple . I went alone, knowing no one, which meant I had to be “on” the entire time—introducing myself, explaining my book, making connections, and keeping the energy high. And don’t get me wrong, the event was fantastic. The drinks and food were great, and I met some truly incredible people. It was the kind of gathering where you leave feeling  full  in one way—grateful for the connections and conversations—but also completely  drained  in another. The next day, I felt the effects. My social battery had been completely deple...

Why Purple? The Meaning Behind the Title of Shades of Purple

  When I sat down to name my memoir,  Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines , I wanted a title that represented not just my story, but the complexities of identity, growth, and everything in between. Purple, as a color, holds deep meaning for me, both symbolically and personally. Between Blue and Pink From a young age, I felt like I existed in an in-between space—somewhere between the expectations of traditional masculinity and the person I was discovering myself to be. In many ways, purple is the perfect representation of that. It’s the blend of blue and pink, colors that have often been arbitrarily assigned to gender roles. But purple? Purple is neither one nor the other. It’s its own shade, its own identity. Much like my journey, purple doesn’t fit neatly into a box—it lives in the middle, unapologetically bold yet still soft, vibrant yet complex. It represents fluidity, individuality, and the courage to exist outside of society’s rigid expectations. A Color o...

When Did You Know?

  It’s a question every LGBTQ+ person has been asked at least once.  When did you know? For some, the realization comes later in life, like a lightbulb moment. For others—like me—it was always there, an unspoken truth that lived in the background of my childhood. I didn’t have the words for it, but I  felt  it. My earliest memories of attraction weren’t big, dramatic realizations. They were small moments—things I brushed off as normal because I didn’t have a reference point to tell me otherwise. In  first grade , I had my first crushes on boys in my class. I didn’t know it was a  crush  at the time, but I knew I liked being around them. I knew my heart beat a little faster when we played together, when we sat next to each other, when they smiled at me. By  fourth grade , I had a more intense attraction to one of my baseball teammates. This time, it was different. I thought about him constantly. He was funny, kind, athletic—everything I admired and...

TEE and Fast Food

  When I think back to my time in the  Teacher Education Exploration  (TEE) program, the memories aren’t just of the classrooms or the inspiring lessons—it’s the little rituals, the friendships, and the fast-food runs that truly stand out. Ashley and I were a dynamic duo during our TEE days, and our weekly fast-food routine became a cornerstone of that time. Monday through Thursday, without fail, we’d head to the McDonald’s in LaGrange. It wasn’t just about the food; it was about the experience. Reba, one of the kindest staff members there, became part of our little tradition. She had our orders memorized like clockwork. I’d roll up and get my number 9—a glorious ten-piece chicken McNugget meal with fries and a drink. My sauces? Always sweet and sour and BBQ. Reba would have it ready with a smile, and it was like seeing an old friend every day. But Fridays? Fridays were  Taco Bell day.  Ashley and I would shake things up by heading to Taco Bell with a couple of ...

Lessons Learned: What Writing a Memoir Taught Me

  When I first started writing  Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines , I didn’t think of myself as a writer. Writing had always felt like a chore—something I avoided when I could and endured when I couldn’t. But this book wasn’t just about putting words on a page; it was about honoring my story, reliving the moments that shaped me, and creating something that might resonate with others who feel like they don’t quite fit in. Along the way, the process of writing taught me more than I ever expected. 1. Vulnerability is Strength The first draft of my memoir wasn’t just words—it was pieces of me, my heart, and my memories laid bare. Reliving some of the most challenging moments of my life was emotionally draining, but it also taught me that vulnerability isn’t a weakness. In fact, it’s one of the bravest things you can embrace. Sharing my story forced me to face emotions I’d buried and gave me the courage to say,  This is who I am, take it or leave it. 2. Heali...

The Village That Raised Me: Spotlight on the People Who Inspired Shades of Purple

  They say it takes a village to raise a child, and I’ve come to realize just how true that is. Writing  Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines  reminded me of the incredible “village” that shaped me into the person I am today. Every memory I wrote about, every chapter I finished, brought the faces of the people who inspired me front and center in my mind. This book wouldn’t exist without them. Family: The Foundation of My Story From the very beginning, my family played a pivotal role in my life. My dad’s unwavering support and quiet strength, my mom’s dedication and sacrifices, Grandma Gayle’s comforting presence, and Grandpa George’s wisdom—all of them helped me navigate the highs and lows of growing up. They were the foundation of my village, even when life wasn’t perfect. I still hear Grandpa George’s voice reminding me to be patient or Grandma Gayle’s calm reassurance when my anxiety felt overwhelming. These moments, though small at the time, became the ...

Behind the Scenes: Writing Shades of Purple: A Boy's Journey Between the Lines

  When I first sat down to write  Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines,  I had no idea just how much of myself I’d be pouring into those pages. Writing has never been my favorite activity, to be honest. It’s always felt more like a chore than a creative outlet. But with this book, I knew it was something I  needed  to do—not just for myself, but for anyone out there who’s ever felt like they didn’t quite belong. The Exhaustion of Recalling Memories The process of digging through my memories was both exhausting and cathartic. Some moments were joyful, like reliving the summer nights with my childhood friends or hearing Grandma Gayle’s comforting words in my mind. But others—like the pain of losing my dad—were like reopening a wound that I thought had scarred over. Writing forced me to sit with those feelings, to confront parts of my past that I’d spent years trying to forget or push aside. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. Each word felt like a ...

The Journey Begins: Shades of Purple is Almost Here!

  Hey everyone, I’m so excited (and a little nervous!) to share that my memoir,  Shades of Purple: A Boy’s Journey Between the Lines , is finally becoming a reality. What started as a personal project—something that felt so big and intimidating at first—has transformed into a book that I hope will resonate with so many of you. This journey has been anything but easy. Writing about your life means revisiting the highs and lows, the laughter and tears, and putting it all out there for the world to see. But what’s driven me through this process is the thought that my story might help someone feel a little less alone. Shades of Purple  is more than just a book; it’s a deep dive into identity, resilience, and the people who shape us. It’s a collection of memories—some funny, some heartbreaking, and some downright embarrassing (looking at you, middle school me). It’s about growing up on Kipton Nickel Plate, navigating the complexities of being “different” in a small town, and f...